Below is a glimpse into my personal diary. Sometimes I write myself letters.
This is one that I felt I should publish.
THE STRENGTH IN VULNERABILITY
This past year, I have explored the strength in vulnerability.
The strength that I am talking about , exists when we are brought to an uncomfortable point in which we have a choice to either have the courage to look at ourselves, and allow others to see our flaws, or to choose to allow fear to force us to masquerade behind a strong persona, thereby not finding the solutions to our problems.
In order to develop and grow as a person, in order to progress on our life journey, we must be able to create avenues that allow us to accomplish our goals. This is done by finding solutions to the problems that hold us back.
Most times WE are our greatest problem. In order to learn what we need to do to solve a problem, we must first be able to identify and explore it, locating the bad, so that we may nurture the good.
By doing this necessary self-assessment / re centering process, I am learning to conquer my struggle of being vulnerable.
Vulnerability requires sympathy, empathy, and transparency. We have to account for and validate feeling. The loss in the ability to feel is a consequence of being too strong ( desensitized), and a side effect of experiencing trauma or abuse. The less that we feel, the more we lose ourselves.
To grow , evolve, and heal, we need validation, community, and love. The only way to conquer ourselves is to be open to the outpouring of validation, community, and love. Those three attributes are our strength. The act of perfecting our flaws by receiving those attributes is the strength in vulnerability.
I have learned that making known my weakness and personal failure will keep me humble and allow my light to be used to fuel others' flames, while keeping mine burning with progress.
It is also important to view struggle as a cause for opportunity and not an excuse for personal failure.
Life is a balancing act .
We must not dwell in tragedy or triumph. We must always continue to move, progress, and learn.
We must not become so used to being vulnerable that we become weak and drain those who gather to lift us up as a member of the community. This will inhibit progress by incubating hate and bitterness.
We must also not be so strong that we become arrogant, proud, or intimidating. This will only create isolation.
It is easy to become comfortable at the extremes. The discomfort that is necessary to remain self aware and forward focused is achieved when we balance our lives in a manner that fulfills the needs of our souls.
The act of moving, in any fashion ( walking, running, driving etc.) takes work, and is uncomfortable, but it is a necessary action if you want to arrive at your destination.
I encourage you to continue to join me on my journey and thank you for letting me walk with you on yours.
See you at the top!
- K. Kylila Bullard
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Commited to innovative leadership and institutional change
My name is Kylila (Ka-lee-la) which means beloved. I am one who loves, or at least tries to. I have had many titles, Poet, Photographer, Videographer, Writer, Cadet, Private, Athlete, Leader, Director, etc. I have learned that the greatest successes are born from the most tremendous trials. Everyone has beauty in their life story.