"Letting Go"

-When you are not as emotionally invested, keener observations yield meaningful reflection
-You are not healthy for me
-You are not good for me
-When you first met me, you put up a façade, a fraud doing just enough to maintain the illusion
-But I have seen the very worst of you, which kept me in a suspended period of confusion
-That is not how I deserve to be treated, a mismatch of respect and compassion I delivered daily 
-I can't believe that seeing your face and hearing your voice used to make me so happy
-Parts of you are so selfish, you don’t look inside yourself truly to be objective
-That anxiety, that resentment, it’s of your own design
-All this time, trying to be someone you are not ready to be
-Beauty and charm only carry so far before prospects finally see you for what you are
-You are not fully together, you care not to address (only to project) insecurities, explore (isolate) feelings, transform (stay) uncertainties
-You want success but slow to put work to idle hands to achieve it
-You sampled my strength—the protector, the nurturer
-You tried to destroy the me I deliberately refined, the life I willfully created
-Your path, it's in the opposite direction
-You made your choice, and I won’t be your fall back
-Maybe one day you will regret and redirect
-But that’s of no consequence to me
-And really you did me a favor
-You’re the best thing that never happened to me

A failed relationship is a failed project. Some people say there is no party at fault…but that is not true, they are both at fault. A relationship is a bond of mutual respect, commitment, and communication. Why ask for a relationship if that not what you really want? There are people that expect things to be easy. The moment they realize how much work it will take to build and maintain a relationship, they are no longer interested. What is worse is that these same folks will string their partner along, withholding their own feelings, and not communicate their lack of sincerity.  Then they will use a combination of “little things” to rationalize their own reactions and deflect their own responsibility for failure (it is the situation, not me). How ironic is for someone to desire trust and loyalty, but at the same time continue to lie to their partner? The lie being going through the motions everyday and allowing the other person to become more and more invested in the relationship. The act is selfish and cruel, regardless on intent. On the opposite side of the spectrum, you have folks that will jump headfirst into relationships without a lifejacket/helmet (i.e. personal protective equipment) and “go with the flow”. Is that brave or is that negligent? When you trust and love this way what is the probability of success? This is where smart people make dumb choices. They get so swept up by the ragging rapids of emotion, and neglect to see the disconnect in the other person’s morals and values. Selecting someone with potential is an unnecessary risk when they do not demonstrate the ability to respond to feedback, consistently make mature decisions, or see how their choices impact others (second and third order effects). It is dumb to believe you can shoulder other’s problems or love someone who is not producing the same investment. No amount of word or deed of compassion is going to make someone love you…anymore than word or deed is going to make someone reflect, grow, and change. That is a process only the individual can work through. If an individual is receptive of support and perspective of others, the transition(s) can occur more rapidly and holistically.